People lie about things all the time and for many reasons. Sometimes it’s a malicious lie to get back at somebody for some perceived misdemeanour.
Sometimes they are “put up to it” by another person. This is often the case when a child or young person makes a false allegation of sexual abuse. Parental Alienation has a lot to answer for.
Sometimes an older person will persuade a younger person to lie in retaliation for some other separate real or imagined misdemeanour.
Some people lie without thinking about the consequences and when they realise that they have just put an innocent person into prison for many years, and removed a much loved and valued person from a family unit, they may then come to regret what they did.
Some people just don’t care about anybody else and have no regrets. This page will not be of interest to them.
Another (hidden) reason for making false allegations is that the person making them may have serious mental health difficulties, which other unscrupulous people will use to their own ends.
For instance, another family member or friend / partner, having their own agenda, may pick on a vulnerable child or young person, or vulnerable adult, repeating various false allegations over and again, until the person adopts it as their own and believes it.
Many vulnerable people will read online and in books, many horror stories of abuse, some true and some false – and then genuinely believe they have suffered the same things.
Vulnerable people can be very susceptible to “suggestibility” when it is repeated over and again even though they have no real memory of such abuse.
In the past some people, once having made allegations and gone to trial truly believing what they have alleged, later on realise, to their horror, in fact the “abuse” may not have happened or did not happen at all.
Retracting False Allegations
The last place to go to try to clear this mess up is the police station. Often those wishing to make a genuine retraction are threatened by police that they will be prosecuted for wasting police time / perverting the course of justice and / or perjury if they want to retract.
If the person wishing to retract is very young, or was very young when they made their allegations, or suffers from serious mental health problems, it is unlikely that anything will happen to them at all. We have seen that happen time and again in the media where a person has admitted to either lying or making a mistake and basically nothing has happened to them.
If anybody who has made false allegations, and is reading this article, and you are wishing to retract / come clean and explain why you made the allegations, whether you were pressured or completely conned into believing they were abused, you can do so in complete confidence by emailing firstname.lastname@example.org – and we can make a start from there.
– I promise that you will not be judged or criticised at all.
You will be listened to and guided as to what you can do next to put this right. You will have support and understanding all the way through.
Not only that, if the fact that you have bravely come forward to tell the truth results in an innocent person being found not guilty or released from prison on appeal, you will feel so much better, knowing that you have done the right and honourable thing.
If you are reading this page right now after making a false allegation, then you are halfway there to doing the right thing.
It’s taken you a great deal of courage to get this far. That means you are seriously thinking about putting things right. Well done.
Truth and honesty are two of the most powerful attributes anyone can have. A clear conscience is another path to recovery. You CAN do this.
If you are worried that you might get into trouble “with the law” after doing the right thing, it’s entirely possible, depending on the circumstances, that nothing will happen to you whatsoever. You will get help with this every single step of the way.
In the first instance of you making contact, nobody will be reported to the police or to any other authority. All that will happen is that we will discuss the matter and where to go from there.
Please take this first brave step.
Please, please help me to help you do the right thing.
Thank you so much for reading this page.